Anger is not good or bad it is just an emotion that everyone at sometime feels. But it is helpful to know how to deal with it in a healthy way. If you find you are having anger bursts then maybe you have a situation that you need to deal with. Here are some tips on how you can deal with your anger in a healthy way. Rather than act in a angry way wouldn’t it be better to wait till you have calmed down and then sit down with the person or even write a letter to say in a healthy way what the problem is. It is better for everyone if you discuss the problem in a calm and sane way. Stating the facts and also what you would like to happen without using anger. If you are really upset then go for a walk, go to the gym, write your feelings down, talk to someone to feel heard and to find a healthy way to deal with the emotions that you feel. Your unhappiness is not someone elses responsibility we are all responsible for our own feelings and getting our needs met also dealing with our own anger. Your anger can also be a tool that you use to understand what is important to you and what matters to you. So use it for good to understand that you have more work to do in that area of your life .It can also be an indicator that someone has gone to far and stepped on your boundaries and that you have been violated in some way. So you need to to find some way to stand up for you and still be safe. Victims often have a problem with this issue as they have been violated often and it can take sometime for them to find a way to stand up for them but not do it in an angry way. But with work and practice you will get better at this.
If you do find that you have an anger problem you can always go for anger management. I have done a anger management course and I found it very helpful and interesting as we all store our anger in different ways. Doing a course means that you have more information to use and help you to deal with this problem better. That you are more intouch with your feelings and your needs so you are able to deal with situations in a much better way. I would recommend doing an anger management course. Lots of domestic violence victims and abusers have issues with anger and getting their feelings met in healthy ways. Many victims of domestic violence stuff their anger because they do not feel safe to say how they feel and express themselves in a healthy way which is not good and healthy. So learning how to deal with this in a better way and finding out what you do with your anger is very helpful to you. Knowledge is power it means that you have another way to work better and healthier. Also you understand what is happening and what behaviour you need to work on so you can do better. Repressed anger is very bad for your health so if you find you have repressed anger you need to see a counsellor to help you work on this.